Right now in my life, I am deeply in the midst of change: my sister moved away and I feel distant from my family, my friends and social circles are only just now starting to develop here in New Mexico (yet I still feel somewhat alone), I’m becoming more aware of my health including eating better and cooking more often, my sleeping patterns are gradually becoming more aligned with the rest of the world, I’m learning to give up my addictions (video games, porn and information), and my professional life is changing drastically as I learn how to launch my own business and be an entrepreneur. Additionally, I’m learning how to be in a loving, deeply involved and meaningful relationship which is a first for me.
My girlfriend is also challenging me right now to help me see my weaker qualitites and transform them into strengths. She’s teaching me to set my boundaries, and she’s helping me understand the value of my word so that people can trust me and feel comfortable relying on me. She mirrors my actions back at me and she confronts me so that I will grow as a soul and become the strong, solid and dependable man that she can rely on.
All these changes are a lot to deal with, even stressful at times. I find it most helpful during this time of transformation to be encouraged by the people who love me and give me their support. I understand that I’m not always the best friend or son or boyfriend because I sometimes have trouble remembering to connect with those people when they’re outside of my immediate focus. But they’re still very close to my heart and my soul and mean a great deal to me. I’m learning how to expand my awareness in this area too.
We as humans often dwell on the negative events in our lives, and we end up only focusing on feeling hurt or angry when these events occur. But what we sometimes forget is that we have the ability to view life from any perspective we wish. We can treat challenges as problems that hinder us, or we can see them as lessons which help us grow.